11 reality-check scenarios to show you what’s in store

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Dating an artist of any medium is exhilarating — you won’t forget the experience. It’s everything you think it’s going to be and more. Sometimes, the “more” part can be, um, challenging. Like, “I need a compass and a detailed manual” type of challenge.

As creatives, we can be complicated, ahem, dramatic, and emotional. I know I am. But I’ve been on the other side too. Having dated many artists, I can’t say it’s a walk in the park, but it is intoxicating, which keeps me (and you) coming back for more.

The highs and lows are torture to navigate…


7 ugly truths, 3 pleasant ones, and a few myth busters

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Astonishingly, 98% of people croak off without achieving their dreams. Are you shocked? You should be. Are you going to be one of them? I’m not. My loftiest dream was to be a professional belly dancer in Egypt — I did it. Next, I want to be a writer — a damn good one. We shall see. Something tells me you will let me know how I’m doing.

Self-discipline is the sorcerer’s stone for us mortals. Its power allows us to scale our lives systematically. It’s your superhuman power. It’s definitely mine, and I wouldn’t trade it for anything.

Over…


I have converted to singledom

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Being single takes more commitment than a full-blown relationship. The bizarre thing about being single is the untold benefits — they are astonishing.

I am no longer a relationship junkie.

The eye-opening truth about choosing to stay single: It takes just as much work as being in a relationship — maybe more. You may think it’s easier than the daily compromises we make in a conventional union, but you’d be wrong.

You are more mysterious to figure out than you think.

But wait — don’t let that scare you away!

The truth about the single life is . . …


You don't have to be Shakespeare to benefit

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All bad poetry springs from genuine feeling.

— Oscar Wilde

As I actively avoid journaling, it dawns on me — poetry is taking over. I feverishly gulp my coffee, and the words spill out of me like I’m Julius Caesar, famed orator that he was. A spanking new morning writing ritual is born. Fascinating poetry tidbit: Metromania is the compulsion to write poetry. I have metromania — and I am into it.

I’ve always been keen on morning journaling as a means of “staying connected.” However, journaling hurricane-like emotions sometimes require a more cathartic approach. My journaling became civilized, tidy…


Here are 6 ways to do it.

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“If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the present.”

— Lao Tzu

I used to be a diehard affirmation junky. I had a positive affirmation mantra-du-jour for everything. But the truth is, saying positive affirmations to yourself and hoping you will believe them one day is like buying a shoe that doesn’t fit and hoping you will grow into it later. You won’t feel better, do better, or be better. …


A few of my love-themed poems & articles to light your fire

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There is no remedy for love but to love more

Henry David Thoreau

Happy Valentine’s day, my fellow Earthlings! Today people around the globe are celebrating, ignoring, or cursing this glorious holiday. As we reflect on love’s triumphs and betrayals why not have a good laugh, cry, or a sinister chuckle?

Just as there is no light without dark, there is no love without loss. Whether you’re single, married, coupled up, or spurned, I wish you love in all its various forms — especially self-love — the most elusive creature of all.

Enjoy a few of my greatest love-themed…


How to stay focused on what matters

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Words — so innocent and powerless as they are, as standing in a dictionary, how potent for good and evil they become in the hands of one who knows how to combine them. ―Nathaniel Hawthorne

Nathaniel Hawthorne has it right — how potent our words become when we order them to dance and delight. When you’re still finding your voice, It’s easy to get caught up in unproductive habits. With an overflowing pool of words and ideas to wade through, it can be downright overwhelming.

Writers play many roles. We are literary choreographers, magicians, and word economists. We also have…


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Improve your memory, reduce stress, and have fun doing It

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I know of no more encouraging fact than the unquestionable ability of man to elevate his life by conscious endeavor.

— Henry David Thoreau

Everyone wants to feel better. We also want to be better. Henry David Thoreau is an American writer whose stark writings urge us to explore the journey of self-betterment. The human mind has over 6,000 thoughts per day. Why not spend your time on some high-impact ways to upgrade your life?

We can choose to improve our lives any day of the week. Shock your system out of its routine and have some fun. …

Wendy S. Bradfield

Cosmos driven writer of broken dreams with a motivational flair. I do everything the hard way. Follow me for stories about how to do it with style.

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