Is your shadow self a monster to be avoided?

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Studies show that 73% of men and 66% of women fantasize about killing someone. And it’s normal — as long as you don’t act on it. Say hello, to your shadow. Good people do evil things, and bad people do noble deeds. It’s why we love infamous characters like Dexter, the serial killer with a heart who kills killers.

None among us are immune to dark thoughts and urges. They form in the guise of violence, sexual desires, deceit, guilt, shame, and irrational fears. Swiss psychiatrist Carl Jung describes the personality we choose to repress or reject, our “shadow self.”

Happiness is not a moving target

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The one thing we all chase is happiness. Sometimes you capture it for a moment or two, but you want it to last. We chase happiness as though it can last forever, once we find it.

“I’ll be happy when…” Go ahead, fill in the blank. We’ve all been there plenty of times. But it rarely turns out that you’re as happy as you think you’ll be when you get there. Why is that?

What if happiness isn't a thing to capture but rather something you manifest?


The word manifest has a rich, enduring history. It stemmed from the Latin…

6 steps to find out if you want to

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Many expect unconditional love, but few know how to give it.

The conditions of unconditional love are open to interpretation. Unconditional love usually goes something like this: I’ll give it to you if you give it to me.

The whole scenario inspires instant anxiety.

Love, as most dictionaries define it, is having an intense affection for someone or something.

As a child, you wanted unconditional love without knowing what it means. Hopefully, you experienced it with your parents or caregivers.

You’re lucky if you receive unconditional love from anyone. …

Travel. Egypt. North Africa

The truth behind why people say it feels like home

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Beware of traveling to Egypt; it’s dangerous.

You're likely to fall victim to the charms of Egypt herself! Yes, the odds are you will fall in love!

How do you know you've arrived in Cairo?

Close your eyes. Let your ears adjust to the hypnotic muezzin (call to prayer).The jubilant “Zaghareets” and beating drums of a local wedding ring through the neighborhood. A truck full of baby camels catches your eye, and you are mesmerized by the sight of them.

So many stimuli.

The scents of frankincense and myrrh put you in a daze as you cross the 6th of…

I have converted to singledom

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Being single takes more commitment than a full-blown relationship. The bizarre thing about being single is the untold benefits — they are astonishing.

I am no longer a relationship junkie.

The eye-opening truth about choosing to stay single: It takes just as much work as being in a relationship — maybe more. You may think it’s easier than the daily compromises we make in a conventional union, but you’d be wrong.

You are more mysterious to figure out than you think.

But wait — don’t let that scare you away!

The truth about the single life is . . …

Weekend prompt

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Thank you, 𝘋𝘪𝘢𝘯𝘢 𝘊. for this irresistible, well-crafted prompt.

This prompt blew my mind. I read it over and over, and each time, its meaning sank deeper into my psyche, unearthing its essence layer by layer.

As a rule, I never write and publish off the cuff but hey, there’s a first time for everything and this prompt is too juicy to pass up.

Cheers to stream of consciousness creations!

Not everybody chooses to become an instrument of healing, but it’s the worthiest path I can think of. It’s also the darkest and most humbling.

If you stare into the…

Wendy S. Bradfield

A cosmos-driven writer of broken dreams with a motivational flair. I write about love, life, and what happens in-between.

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